So this is the cover to my first ebook of poetry.  Right now thru to July 26, 2013 it’s free at Amazon.  So go get a copy and then let me know what you think.  And thanks to all my followers because without you, I would never have had the courage to put myself out there with this book!  

So I’ll put the link below and you can go read about what this book is all about and the synopsis is also below.

This is the first in a 4 part series of books. In this first book you’ll find 30+ poems written about the horrors of child sexual abuse and the pain, despair, and life changes endured by the victims of this heinous crime. WARNING!!! Contains some very graphic material and could cause flashbacks. Please take care of yourself and should you be triggered, make sure to have access to your support system. The next book will be about the beginning of the healing process and the trials and tribulations involved for adults trying to live their lives and also heal a traumatic past.

Rev. Ryan J. Muelhauser, Ex-Gay Counsellor, Arrested For Molestation Of Two Young Men


Sadly, these kinds of stories are horrid, but not surprising.  Those who speak or act the most forcefully  against something are often trying to block their own secret desires.  Especially, it seems when there is a religious factor involved.





[serious trigger warning: explicit descriptions of child sexual abuse, rape, violence]

Angel Haze’s take on Eminem’s Cleaning Out My Closet is a brave reliving of a childhood rife with sexual abuse and the ongoing affects that the acts had on Haze long after the abuse had finished. Raw, it packs an emotional punch, Haze’s delivery and execution shows why she is such an exciting talent to watch.

I want everyone i’ve ever met that thinks that term survivor ( in terms of sexual assault) is overly dramatic or doesn’t believe in the power abuse has in shaping your life for years to listen to this track. this song is so raw and painful but i really appreciate it. angel haze is making that REAL music.

This song really hit me in the gut. She is so good tho and the writing is just, damn.

this is really good, but yeah it was tough to listen to


[trigger warning: child prostitution, sex trafficking] Easiest thing you can do to help Child Prostitutes? Vote yes on Prop 35.



Proposition 35 would do the following things to end human trafficking:

  • Those found guilty of human trafficking would face increased prison sentences and fines.
  • The money collected from those fines will now go to help victims and train law enforcement in how to handle domestic violence and trafficking.
  • Child prostitutors would have to register as sex offenders. 
  • Victims would be able to use their trafficker’s past sexual conduct as evidence in their rape/human trafficking trials.

As you can see, it’s basically all common-sense stuff that should be in place already. 

i am really confused as to why these people are not already required to register as sex offenders. so confused. 

(Source: theresalwaysalwayssomething)

Living in a Rape Culture: The Ethics of Saying No


In the 21st century the last thing that needs to be debated is whether or not the idea of rape is good or bad. We do however have to really dig into the reality of what our culture has allowed to exist and even help thrive simply because of our terrible discourse surrounding the information. There are ideas that we need to consider and others we need to erase altogether simply because the truth is not as blurry as our society tries to make it.

The first idea we need to dispel is that rape is about sex. You have often heard rape called sexual assault or even a “crime of passion”. Rape is not sexual. Rape is not passionate. Rape and sex have nothing to do with each other. Rape is not an act of sexual desire being swapped in a reckless manner; rape is an act of coercive theft of another human beings ability to decide. It is a hierarchal stand against the weak made by the strong. It is not sexual, it is not passionate, and it is not conducive to mutual agreements built on horizontal care and concern amongst the involved individuals. The shallow discourse surrounding rape in our society has tried in it’s earnest to build an understanding around rape to constitute a sexual tone within the argument, and this is simply so we can create a society that impugns victims as if somehow it is their fault that they forcefully had their ability to decide taken from them. Our patriarchal social order wants you to believe that rape is about sex because there is so much terrible misinformation concerning sex already.

Another utterly foolish piece of discourse swirling around the discourse concerning rape is the idea that there is no such thing as 100% good consent. This, my friends, is an absolute red flag of a point and anyone who makes this statement should be called out for being a rape apologist as soon as it is said and not a second later. The fact is there is no such thing as bad consent. Consent is good all of the time, within the confines of a clear mind when it is being given. There is however a misunderstanding of what consent actually is. Consent is not moving your hand up a woman’s leg when she looks away after telling you she is tired. Consent is not asking your partner for sex over and over again until she gives in just to get you to shut the fuck up. Consent is not waiting until the person you are interested in becomes so incredibly intoxicated that their inhibitions have become handicapped beyond the ability to clearly decide what is ok. Consent IS good when it IS given ALL OF THE TIME.

Rape falls under the umbrella of male violence. Certainly not all of the perpetrators of rape are male, but 99% of rapes are generally carried out by males according to the victims. Rape falls under the scope of male violence because its intent is misogynistic in nature, essentially the idea of men feeling entitled to a woman’s body in the most heinously obvious way. Men’s removing the choice to decide what a woman does with her body in a coercive way, such as rape, is the definition and full effect of what the patriarchy seeks to do in our society. Trying to diminish the act as mere folly on the part of the victim is the bane of the social contract and is nothing more than the arrogance of a culture of rape designed and legitimized by our patriarchal social order.

The worst thing we can do as a society is to hear the plights and concerns of a victimized people or person and dismiss them for the sake of a cheap laugh and that is exactly what our society has done within the context of rape. Our society has become so desensitized by hierarchal systems of coercion driven by patriarchy that we have legitimized the chastising of victims of rape by means of “jokes”. These jokes are not only insensitive and disgusting; they are dangerous and supportive of the status quo concerning our current discourse on rape and crimes against women. Rape jokes give rapists the green light to continue raping, because after all, the act is only going to be turned into a joke, and the victim will just become a punch line. Rape jokes lighten up the discourse when it needs to be stern and strong for the victims and their families. Diminishing rape from the heinous and cowardly act it is to something that just happens to loose women is the reflection of a society that has become so inanely detached from humanity that it chooses to laugh for convenience.

The rape culture exists because men allow it to exist. That is the utter truth, and it is not going to change until we can have a real discussion of the real issues surrounding the topic. Lives depend on it.

If smashing the rape culture is not a priority of yours, then you are not a comrade of mine.

(TW-rape) Boy who raped girl of 5 spared jail as judge says 'it's society's fault'



A teenage boy who raped a girl of five was handed a community order by a judge who blamed ‘the world and society’ for his exposure to pornography.

This judge needs to recuse himself from the world

Some Facts on Sexual Abuse


  • 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually assaulted by age 18

  • One of every seven victims of sexual assault reported to law enforcement were under age 6.

  • More than 47% of admitted child molesters had been sexually abused as children.

  • Adult molesters who have been sexually abused more than 50 times have up to triple the number of child victims compared to those who have not experienced sexual abuse

  • 83% of women with disabilities experience sexual assault in their lifetime

  • Almost half of perpetrators of abuse against persons with disabilities contacted their victims through services related to the survivor’s disability.

  • Between 1 in 3 to 1 in 6 men experience sexual abuse in their lifetime

  • Most men are abused by “straight” men

  • Men are more likely than women to report that their assault had little to no effect on them (30% of men compared to 6% of women)

  • Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced
    into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime.

  • 84% of women who are raped know their assailant.

  • In preliminary data, the Gender, Violence and Resource Access survey found
    that 50% of people who identify as either transgender or intersex have been
    sexually assaulted by a romantic partner

  • Victims of sexual assault are 26 times more likely to abuse drugs.

  • Every 2 minutes someone somewhere in America is sexually violated


(Source: holisticsexualhealth)

**TW sexual assault** Revealed: the scale of sexual abuse by police officers


Sexual predators in the police are abusing their power to target victims of crime they are supposed to be helping, as well as fellow officers and female staff, the Guardian can reveal.

An investigation into the scale and extent of the problem suggests sexual misconduct could be more widespread than previously believed.

The situation raises questions about the efficacy of the police complaints system, the police’s internal whistleblowing procedures, the vetting of officers and a failure to monitor disciplinary offences.

Police officers have been convicted or disciplined for a range of offences from rape and sexual assault to misconduct in public office relating to inappropriate sexual behaviour with vulnerable women they have met on duty. Others are awaiting trial for alleged offences, though many are never charged with a criminal offence and are dealt with via internal disciplinary procedures.

The problem is to a large extent hidden, as no official statistics are kept and few details are released about internal disciplinary action in such cases.

By analysing the data available – including court cases and misconduct proceedings – the Guardian has attempted to document the scale of the corruption for the first time.

In the past four years, there were 56 cases involving police officers and a handful of community support officers who either were found to have abused their position to rape, sexually assault or harass women and young people or were investigated over such allegations.

The Guardian’s investigation has uncovered evidence of:

  • Vetting failures, including a concern that vetting procedures may have been relaxed post-2001 during a surge in police recruitment.
  • Concerns over the recording and monitoring of disciplinary offences as officers progress through their career.
  • A tendency for women who complain they have been sexually attacked by a policeman not to be believed.
  • A pervasive culture of sexism within the police service, which some claim allows abusive behaviour to go unchecked.

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Street Harassment: A Means of Control That We Need to Get Under Control


Written by Marianne Møllman for RH Reality Check. This diary is cross-posted; commenters wishing to engage directly with the author should do so at the original post.

Street harassment—sexual harassment of women in public—has gained notoriety in Western media since the start of the Arab spring. Most recently, a harrowing first-person narrative of a mob sexual assault of a Western woman on Cairo streets had an editor from The Atlantic conclude that he would do anything to stop his daughters from going to Egypt and being exposed to that kind of abuse.

Unfortunately, research suggests that if you want to prevent your daughters from experiencing street harassment, you would need to keep them off the streets pretty much anywhere. The vast majority of women from Indianapolis to Beijing have experienced street harassment at some point, including leering, whistling, and sexual grabbing or touching.

And though most street harassment definitely is less physically aggressive than the story from Egypt, it is anything but benign. Enough scholars have examined the socio-political context and psycho-social consequences of street harassment to conclude that men harassing women in public is a symptom of the sentiment it perpetuates: women as inferior objects of prey.

I know what I am talking about, as does just about every women and post-pubescent girl. 

Read the rest here.

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