Here are all of things that Judith says immediately before Harley has sex with her in his private plane: "No." “Stop it." “I don’t want to." “Get off of me." Judith does not want to have sex with Harley. (There’s another layer of nuance here—one reason Judith doesn’t want to have sex with Harley is that she’s deeply invested in Perry’s beloved gender roles. But the reason for her “no” is irrelevant. Her spiritual weakness betrays her, Harley can tell she wants it, and she’s punished for that weakness.)

He does not stop. He just tries harder. He knows what she really wants, no matter what her mouth and body are saying. She never says yes. He says, smugly, “Now you can say you resisted.” He has sex with her anyway. This is a rape scene. But, in Perry’s universe, Harley is right. She did secretly want it. And that’s the real problem.”

This idea—that men know what women really want, that resistance can be fucked out of us (or consent fucked into us)—is DEEPLY NOT OKAY. It’s not okay to telegraph this to young men or young women or victims of sexual violence or potential perpetrators of sexual violence or lawmakers or anyone. It’s a paradigm that I was hoping had died out with Pepe LePew. It is frightening.”

-Lindy West, Jezebel

I think it’s VERY important that everyone, ladies and gentleman, understands that this is a rape scene. This isn’t breaking down defenses or playing hard to get. Coercing, manipulating, threatening, intimidating, or even guilt tripping someone saying no into sex is rape. Doesn’t matter if they don’t scream or kick or cry. Doesn’t matter if they are your boyfriend, husband, wife, fuck buddy, crush, or stranger.

Check out these other links for more discussion.

How To Not Be Rapey 

Date Rape

I never called it rape: The Ms. Report on recognizing, fighting, and surviving date and acquaintance rape


The thing is, rapists absolutely need one thing to operate. They need people to believe they are not rapists. Stranger rapists do that by trying to hide that they are the person who committed the rape. Acquaintance rapists do that by picking targets who won’t say anything about what happened, or by using tactics that, if the survivor does speak up, people will decide don’t really count as rape. If you want to do something about rapists, make sure people know they are rapists.
Cockblocking Rapists Is A Moral Obligation; or, How To Stop Rape Right Now |

Please read this.



My best friends cousin has been arrested in Dubai, after being raped: she was arrest because she had ‘sex’ before marriage, I’ve seen tumblr do this before and i know that you are all kind enough to sign it! She needs 100,000 signatures. Please, please, help! 

guys, she’s going to prison because she was raped. please take 10 seconds of your time to sign the petition.

Sign this!

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Positivity is a far more powerful force than lack of negativity.


Telling people not to say or do things because they might discourage rape victims from reporting their rapes is not constructive. Instead of suppressing false allegations and male rape victims, campaign to encourage rape survivors to report the people who raped them. Creating positive encouragement is a far more powerful and effective action than trying to ensure a lack of potential discouragement.


Victim of hours-long gang rape on New Delhi bus in stable condition after several operations
The 23-year-old student who was the victim of a brutal, hours-long beating and gang rape on a New Delhi bus is now in stable condition after undergoing several rounds of surgery, doctors said Thursday.

She’s not out of danger yet, the chief of New Delhi’s Safdarjung Hospital said, but her recovery is going well.

“She is a really brave girl,” said Dr. BD Asthani, the BBC reports. “She has immense fighting spirit. Today is the fourth day since her grievous injury. She has withstood the treatment [well]. (AP)

The Big Military Story No One Wants to Talk About Right Now: Rape


Salacious details of Gen. David Petraus’s adulterous relationship with biographer Paula Broadwell—and all of the attendant sexist framing—have eclipsed a much more important military story.

Yesterday, the Air Force imposed what it calls a “wingman policy” requiring its trainees at the Lackland base in San Antonio, Texas, to be with at least one classmate at all times. The move comes in response to an Air Training and Command investigation that identified 23 instructors on the base who had allegedly raped, sexually harassed or had “unprofessional relationships” with 48 trainees.

Lackland trains all Air Force recruits, [Bloomberg reports.] So far, five officials have been convicted in court martials on charges ranging from adultery to rape and others could face criminal charges.

Of course the epidemic of unpunished rape within the U.S. military—and the routine silencing of and retaliation against enlisted survivors who dare to report it—isn’t new. Due in large part to the release of the Academy Award-nominated “Invisible War” documentary, the sustained activism of Rep. Jackie Speier (D-Calif.), and several high-profile class action civil suits filed against former and current Defense Secretaries Donald Rumsfeld and Leon Panetta, the issue has captured headlines. In April, the Pentagon made several changes to its dysfunctional sexual assault protocol, such as extending evidence retention for 50 years and granting service-people who have been assaulted immediate transfers so that they don’t have to report to or interact with their attackers while the crime is being investigated.

These shifts are the bare minimum.

In 2010 alone, there were at least 19,000 intra-military sexual assaults, according to the Defense Department. Further enhancing the trauma, there remains a ban on military insurance coverage of abortions even in the case of rape and incest.

I haven’t seen sexual assault reports broken down by race. What I can say is that a disproportionate number of servicewomen on active duty are black. They make up a whopping 31 percent of the active-duty population compared to the 15 percent they comprise in the general population. (Fifty three percent of women on active duty are white, compared to 78 percent of female civilians.)

In the coming days or weeks, Congress will take up the National Defense Authorization Act and it has the opportunity to lift the ban on military insurance coverage of abortion in the case of sexual assault. It’s way past time to get rid of class-based restrictions on abortion access, including those for military women and Medicaid recipients via the Hyde Amendment. Now that “women’s issues” are all the electoral rage, we should make that demand, straight no chaser.


Consider using the Center for Reproductive Rights’s handy letter to your Congressperson urging him or her to lift the cruel, backwards ban on military insurance coverage of abortion in the case of rape or incest.

Michelle Chen’s still-relevant, excellent 2008 Colorlines feature “Home from the Military” explores some of the contours of military service and sexual assault for women of color living on low incomes.

For more context, read the (potentially triggering) September 2011 class action suit filed by 28 very brave female and male sexual assault survivors against former defense secretaries Donald Rumsfeld and Robert Gates.

The Boston-based Military Rape Crisis Center provides survivors with information, support and opportunities for activism.

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