It is hard to be a fat girl. No matter how much you tell yourself how sexy, talented, amazing, worthy, fabulous, and genius you are, there is a pretty serious backlash that you are facing – on a minute by minute basis. And, I’ll tell you, I consider myself pretty tough and persistently body positive, but it is not easy to be kick-ass all the time. Especially when someone tells you point blank to your face that you are fat and you need to lose weight or you will… (insert really scary reason here – usually culminating in the fact that you will be fat, alone, and unlovable until you lose some weight).

And I absolutely guarantee that inside every phenomenal kick-ass fat positive role model is the tiniest inkling of doubt and fear, and every once and a while, when you are feeling a little vulnerable, even the toughest, most awesome girl can be tripped up, even if they refuse to admit it. I’ll even go out on a limb and say that I believe this so wholeheartedly – anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. This is not to say that we should just succumb to the cultural standards and get all weak in our knees when someone calls us fat – we will keep fighting and loving ourselves no matter what and becoming role models for other women to follow in our example, BUT there has to be some room for honesty in the equation. And honestly? It is not always easy to be a Body Image Warrior.

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My friend, Aiyahna, told me something like this.  She was talking to a girl from a sorority.  I thought she was interested in joining.  She was actually asking about how she lost all that weight.  Mind you, my friend is a big girl.  When I expressed to her how shocked I was because I thought she liked being herself, and she says, “Let me tell you a secret, James.  No big girl likes being big.  I don’t care how much they say they love themselves.  There are always days when you hate it.”  I damn near cried.  That’s some crazy shit to feel.

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This is so true, especially as a fat black woman. I’m always relegated to Mammy in the eyes of society. The minute I walk through the door, I’m relegated to the sexless, selfless, self depreciating Mammy.

And there are time when I seriously feel like I want to cry because of how much negativity I receive on a daily basis from damn near every external force out there telling me that my body is absolutely WRONG and I should be ashamed for existing while fat.

It’s fucking hard to be positive when the narrative written for you is always riddled with shame and hate against you.

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